Feedback 2

Here is a letter I recently received...

Dear Tanjourine

my thoughts exactly on the high school reunion thing.
if I didn't like you then, i prolly won't like you now.
just sayin it as it is.
also, one peeve.......facebook friend requests from people you don't ever really talk to, or even know for that matter.
is it okay to ignore them? is it okay to do some light housekeeping everynow and then and clean up your friends list?
i don't think it's being mean, i think it's just simply being practical.... no?
Dark Angel

Dear Dark Angel;

In a simple answer, yes. It is ok to say NO to Facebook friend requests. My simple theory is, if I wouldn't have coffee with you, why would we be Facebook friends, allowing you a look at all my pictures and personal information without any of the face to face conversation. Maybe it should be called "No-Facetimebook"?

It is better to deny the friend than it is to ignore. I have put this theory to the test. No one will know you said no, they just think you haven't replied yet..They will not receive a message saying "you are a loser, and I will not be your friend". I know, because I have requested people and asked them to deny me so I can see what happens. Nothing happens. That being said, I am still waiting for a few replies myself.....hmmm.... I am a loser! If you simply ignore it, you have it staring you in the face every time you log in. This guilt will haunt you while you should be mindlessly surfing.

As for the housekeeping as you call it: yes. It is ok to delete people once you have added them. It is also a nice way to show them you are friends, by accepting their request and then deleting them later. It's kind of like showing up at someone's party and then sneaking out when no one is looking. However be warned, having these friends may be of use to you at some point so maybe keep them around. I accepted someone as a friend, deleted them later, and then re-added them so I could look at their pictures! HA! I hope they don't read that...oops.... lol. {can't believe I typed lol, I HATE when people type lol...ha ha ha is so much better} so anyways, maybe set your privacy settings for that one person to really strong so that they can't see your stuff, but you can see theirs. Kind of like a two-way mirror {or is it called one way mirror?}

It does bug me when someone requests my friendship on Facebook and I think they could care less what I am up to, they just want their numbers to go up. You know those people that have 607 friends? The one who you met randomly at a party 6 years ago and they sit on FB all day trying to figure out who they can add because the more people they have as Facebook friends they cooler they are? It doesn’t work that way people. Go outside. Meet a human, have a conversation. That being said, I do love Facebook. I think it’s fun and a great waste of time. It helps me stay in touch with the people that I would love to have coffee with but don’t have the chance.

Thank you for your letter Dark Angel. Keep the feedback coming.

*Tanjourine.